exwingman — August 22, 2008, 8:02 pm

How To Pick Up Your Girlfriend’s Friend and Not Get Caught

OK this title may be a bit misleading because there is never a foolproof way to step out on your girl and not get caught.  And those who are foolish enough to mess around with someone their girlfriend knows are just begging for trouble.  And sometimes, we just cannot resist…

Well this was my situation last weekend while I was out with my current semi-regular girl.  We were out at a club with some friends, and some friends of friends.  After a while, we ended up spending most of our time with two girls that my girl knew only a little bit, through some of her other acquaintances.  And one of them was smokin’ hot.  Now, we all know the situation about the girlfriend and her friends. There’s always at least one that you wish you had gotten to first, but we’re never that lucky.  So what do you do?

You can’t come right out at say, “Hey, let’s run into the bathroom and have some hot ass sex!” but that would be nice!  So how are you going to crack that nut?  You have to be careful.  No matter how smooth you think you are….girls talk.  In fact, they talk more than you know.  They even tell each other how you are in bed!  That’s right boys they talk about you’re moves, style, technique, and yes, even sizes.  I know this to be true because I’ve heard them.  For that reason, do not ever try this if your relationship with your girlfriend is exclusive or if the friend in question is your girl’s BFF.  Dipping into your girlfriend’s friend pool is always high risk, and if keeping your girlfriend is high priority, you must look elsewhere for a hot hookup.

So I had to think fast and carefully.  You see my girl is great, but sometimes you just want to try the other flavors in the candy store.  You know, you don’t want to buy, just a free sample.  The girl in question was a hot little Dominican number with dark skin, blond highlights, smooth features and a body that was just screaming…”Ride me like the Pony Express!”  And damn, did I want to deliver the mail!

Since my girl is new, and not exclusive, I decided to play along and see if this new honey was into me.  Well, we were all hanging out at that club, and I was playing it cool.  I paid enough attention to my date to keep her happy, but did not act overly affectionate or touchy-feely in case my new interest was watching to assess the status of my relationship with her.  With a few casual looks and a couple of lingering smiles to the hot Dominican, I was sure I had her curious. 

The night was winding down, and I hadn’t had the chance to be alone with her, but I didn’t panic.  As it turned out, the two girls lived in a neighborhood in the general direction where we were headed.  Bingo!  And of course, upon learning this, my girl offered for us to give them a ride home.  My next thought was  “Either the gods are smiling at me or laughing at me, and I don’t know which”.

 On the way home my girl needed to stop at an ATM.  Once there, she jumped out of the car, and I was left with the hot Dominican and her girlfriend.  They were speaking about a hot club in their neighborhood and asked if I’ve been there.  I said “No but we should we should go.”  And just that easily, I exchanged numbers with the hot one.  She said she would get my date’s number too, so we could all go.  But what else could she say?  If she didn’t it would be obvious she was into me but she didn’t want to put it out there without knowing my situation.

When we dropped them off, I noticed that the girls DID NOT mention the club to my date or get her number so that we could “all” go, so I was feeling pretty good.  Today, I sent a text to the hottie, saying to give me a call later.  But I also had to do some homework.  I also met with my girl and asked her if she had heard from those girls.  Remember what I said…girls talk!  She said “No not yet.  Why?”  I told her that they mentioned a great club and wondered if we would like to go with them and asked if she had their number.  She said she didn’t get it, but they told her they had given their number to me.  Hmm, she HAD managed to talk with them about it.  Wow that was close!  With that info, I know I have to continue to play it cool for awhile to further assess the situation.

As for now, I’m stilling waiting for the call back but at least I’m ahead of the game.  A smart man would leave this one alone, but I love the hunt too much.

So fellas, if you just can’t resist moving on your girlfriend’s friends then you better cover you bases before making a move.  Or better yet just leave them alone.  I know it’s easier when a door of introduction has been opened but be aware of the consequences.  It’s a lot harder to meet a stranger but at least the likelihood of getting caught is a lot lower.

exwingman — July 18, 2008, 3:50 am

Keep it Clean to Keep Her Coming

A few weeks ago I was talking with another guy at a party, and of course the conversation turned to women.  He mentioned that he had recently brought home a girl from a nightclub.  He hadn’t had time that day to clean up his place, but thought nothing of it.  He brought the girl home, and he did hit, but could never get her to come back.  He thinks, and probably rightly so, that she wouldn’t come back after seeing the state of his apartment.

  Impressing women by keeping a clean house is such an easy trick, it’s almost ridiculous.  Women generally expect men to be pigs and slobs, so when they go home with a guy and find that his place is clean and has some style, they’re more than eager to come back for a repeat performance.

exwingman — June 4, 2008, 8:55 pm

What to Do When She Cancels on You

Hey Guys,

I’m Ash and some people seem to think I know a little something something  about women.  After years of the school of hard knocks, I’ve learned a thing or two.  I’ve most likely discovered more nations than Marco Polo, he was bit of a slacker. 

But that’s another story.  I’m here to talk you about real world antics of dating women and how to know when you’re wasting your time.

Now I’m not here to give you step by step advice; there are plenty of great books and articles on our site Ex Wingman.com that you should definitely use but I’m here to give you my real world experiences of life in New York City.  Women have their ‘Sex and the City’, and now we have ours. Guys, don’t knock ‘Sex and the City’.  If you’ve seen it you know you could learn a lot about women.  I’ve definitely used it as a tool.

Ok so let’s start with our every lasting urge to do anything to get a woman if she’s hot.  That’s your first mistake!  Women come in degrees hotness that require a certain amount of effort on your part.  Now let’s not limit hotness to looks.  I’ve had some of my best lovin’ from average looking girls on a hot humid day.  Looks aren’t the only factors of a woman’s hotness but I’ll leave that for another time.

This time we’ll talk about a girl I met at a party.  I went to a party in the Big Apple with a girl I met a couple of weeks prior but there was nothing between us at that time.  She was nice, but not hot enough to commit to so soon in the game, so while at the party I met another girl, a French girl  I’ll call Paulette.  She was nice, funny, had great sense of humor, and she was a 7 out of 10 maybe.  But what the hell, that’s not bad when you’re hoping to get some.  We had a great conversation, and I said we should meet sometime and do something.  Never use the word “date” with Europeans.  They’ll just look at you like a dog who’s just heard a high pitched sound.  They don’t date. If you want to know more about that, let me know and I’ll cover that another time. 

Anyway, back to the story.  I wanted to see what she’d do if I didn’t bother to take out my cell phone and take her number, so I just kept talking.  Then after a couple of minutes, she said, “Where’s your phone?  Take my number.” Bam!  There it is!  Got the digits in the phone and I’m feeling good.  

We started to communicate via email and phone.  She was like, “I can’t wait to see you” so of course I was saying the same.  We decided to meet on a Saturday.  So Saturday came near and I was getting ready.  Can you believe she calls me Friday to say she’s really sorry but she can’t make it because her friends are going to the beach and she wants to go too!  I said, “cool have fun”.  I really didn’t think much of it because she was new to the town and wanted to experience it.  I’m cool with that.  So we rescheduled for the following weekend.

Ok, the day was approaching, and I emailed her saying how excited I am to see her (you have to say that) and she replied “Me too, what time are we meeting?”.  I told her around 9:00.  She wrote back asking if we could change the time.  I asked why, I’m booked during the day.  Guys, never do daytime dates if you are looking to hit.

She said, “I was thinking of another day”.  What the hell! She did it again, a last minute rescheduling.  I wanted to tell her, “At least give me more notice so I can get another hottie lined up.”

Ok guys, this is the defining moment.  You have to decide if a woman is hot enough to put in the extra effort…most of the time she’s not but she thinks she is.  I knew this girl was full of shit and thought I would do anything to accommodate her.  Wrong! I wrote her back, “No worries, I guess it wasn’t meant to be”.  I could hear her jaw hit the floor.  She didn’t even bother to write back.  She thought that she was a player but she got played. 

Just to mess with her I sent her a text a week later wishing her happy birthday.  She so excited she returned a text right away asking how I was and what I was up to.  I replied, “Great just really busy”, without asking her out.  I could hear her jaw hit the ground again…sucker.

So you may be wondering, “How does this help me hit with more women if I’m ditching them so easily?”  Believe me, guys, if you are that easy to manipulate, you will always be at the mercy of the woman, begging for more.  Even if you have to dump one chick without getting her into bed first, better to move on to the next with your balls still intact.  With practice you will gain a confidence that shows and women will sense that you cannot be played that way.

Remember when you were 16 and drove 30 miles to a girl’s house thinking you were going to get a least a kiss and went home with your own hand between your legs!  Well fuck that!  You’re not 16 anymore so stop acting like it.  You work too damn hard during the day to work that hard at night.  I bet if I see Fenchie again, she’ll be eating out of my hand…hope my hands will be full with some hot blonde.

Anyway homies, I hope this was helpful and your first step to being a Wingman No Mo’!

 

exwingman — May 9, 2008, 8:17 pm

Ex Wingman.com Coming Soon!

Guys, I know we have all taken one for the team every now and then, but if you find yourself the designated Wingman ALL THE TIME, there is a reason. 

If you are always the designated driver, same thing.  It’s not because you don’t drink, it’s because your friends know you’re not hookin’ up!

ExWingman.com is coming to help you change all that.  You don’t need to be tall, rich or handsome.  You just need to have the right attitude and the right skills.  So stay tuned…