What to Do When She Cancels on You

Hey Guys,

I’m Ash and some people seem to think I know a little something something  about women.  After years of the school of hard knocks, I’ve learned a thing or two.  I’ve most likely discovered more nations than Marco Polo, he was bit of a slacker. 

But that’s another story.  I’m here to talk you about real world antics of dating women and how to know when you’re wasting your time.

Now I’m not here to give you step by step advice; there are plenty of great books and articles on our site Ex Wingman.com that you should definitely use but I’m here to give you my real world experiences of life in New York City.  Women have their ‘Sex and the City’, and now we have ours. Guys, don’t knock ‘Sex and the City’.  If you’ve seen it you know you could learn a lot about women.  I’ve definitely used it as a tool.

Ok so let’s start with our every lasting urge to do anything to get a woman if she’s hot.  That’s your first mistake!  Women come in degrees hotness that require a certain amount of effort on your part.  Now let’s not limit hotness to looks.  I’ve had some of my best lovin’ from average looking girls on a hot humid day.  Looks aren’t the only factors of a woman’s hotness but I’ll leave that for another time.

This time we’ll talk about a girl I met at a party.  I went to a party in the Big Apple with a girl I met a couple of weeks prior but there was nothing between us at that time.  She was nice, but not hot enough to commit to so soon in the game, so while at the party I met another girl, a French girl  I’ll call Paulette.  She was nice, funny, had great sense of humor, and she was a 7 out of 10 maybe.  But what the hell, that’s not bad when you’re hoping to get some.  We had a great conversation, and I said we should meet sometime and do something.  Never use the word “date” with Europeans.  They’ll just look at you like a dog who’s just heard a high pitched sound.  They don’t date. If you want to know more about that, let me know and I’ll cover that another time. 

Anyway, back to the story.  I wanted to see what she’d do if I didn’t bother to take out my cell phone and take her number, so I just kept talking.  Then after a couple of minutes, she said, “Where’s your phone?  Take my number.” Bam!  There it is!  Got the digits in the phone and I’m feeling good.  

We started to communicate via email and phone.  She was like, “I can’t wait to see you” so of course I was saying the same.  We decided to meet on a Saturday.  So Saturday came near and I was getting ready.  Can you believe she calls me Friday to say she’s really sorry but she can’t make it because her friends are going to the beach and she wants to go too!  I said, “cool have fun”.  I really didn’t think much of it because she was new to the town and wanted to experience it.  I’m cool with that.  So we rescheduled for the following weekend.

Ok, the day was approaching, and I emailed her saying how excited I am to see her (you have to say that) and she replied “Me too, what time are we meeting?”.  I told her around 9:00.  She wrote back asking if we could change the time.  I asked why, I’m booked during the day.  Guys, never do daytime dates if you are looking to hit.

She said, “I was thinking of another day”.  What the hell! She did it again, a last minute rescheduling.  I wanted to tell her, “At least give me more notice so I can get another hottie lined up.”

Ok guys, this is the defining moment.  You have to decide if a woman is hot enough to put in the extra effort…most of the time she’s not but she thinks she is.  I knew this girl was full of shit and thought I would do anything to accommodate her.  Wrong! I wrote her back, “No worries, I guess it wasn’t meant to be”.  I could hear her jaw hit the floor.  She didn’t even bother to write back.  She thought that she was a player but she got played. 

Just to mess with her I sent her a text a week later wishing her happy birthday.  She so excited she returned a text right away asking how I was and what I was up to.  I replied, “Great just really busy”, without asking her out.  I could hear her jaw hit the ground again…sucker.

So you may be wondering, “How does this help me hit with more women if I’m ditching them so easily?”  Believe me, guys, if you are that easy to manipulate, you will always be at the mercy of the woman, begging for more.  Even if you have to dump one chick without getting her into bed first, better to move on to the next with your balls still intact.  With practice you will gain a confidence that shows and women will sense that you cannot be played that way.

Remember when you were 16 and drove 30 miles to a girl’s house thinking you were going to get a least a kiss and went home with your own hand between your legs!  Well fuck that!  You’re not 16 anymore so stop acting like it.  You work too damn hard during the day to work that hard at night.  I bet if I see Fenchie again, she’ll be eating out of my hand…hope my hands will be full with some hot blonde.

Anyway homies, I hope this was helpful and your first step to being a Wingman No Mo’!